无心剑中译奥修《爱、婚姻与自由》

Love, Marriage and Freedom

爱、婚姻与自由

Beloved Osho,

敬爱的奥修，

Is it possible to be married and to be free at the same time?

婚后还可能保持自由吗？

Dharma Priya, it is difficult but not impossible. Just a little understanding is needed.

达玛·普利亚，要做到虽然很难，但也并非不可能。只是需要一点点悟性。

A few basic truths have to be recognized. One is that nobody is born for another. The second is that nobody is here to fulfill your ideals of how he should be. The third is that you are master of your own love, and you can give as much as you want -- but you cannot demand love from the other person, because nobody is a slave.

必须承认一些基本事实。第一、没有谁是为别人而生的。第二、没有谁在此要成为你理想中的模样。第三、你自己的爱自己做主，你想怎么给予就怎么给予——但是不能向别人要求爱，因为别人又不是奴隶。

If these simple facts are understood, then it does not matter whether you are married or unmarried, you can be together -- allowing space to each